KDTime: Couples' Careers

Episode 62

So I definitely noticed in most tv shows the commonality of couples that get together are based on their work place relationships. And it dawned on me that it was weird that couples that we claim are ENDGAME were only together because they were thrust together via the workplace.

While in my own dating life, I have only dated maybe a couple of guys based on being around them while at work. It seemed so common based on the shows I watched. But in reality, my friends, the parents of my friends, people in my groups and communities DID NOT date, have a relationship or get married and also worked together. Instead they met in various ways and kept the workplace separate. Unless one of the persons in the relationship owned a business and their partner would work with them that is completely different.

My point is that majority of the shows I watch featured couples getting together based on proximity. Here's the list below of the ones from Tv.

Tv Show Couples:

• Derek & Meredith Grey's Anatomy both doctors/surgeons met at the bar but realized he was her boss
• The Cosby's Claire Huxtable lawyer and Cliff Huxtable obstetrician met in college Hillman College
• Dre advertising executive & Bow anesthesiologist (unclear how they met)
• Jim and Pam worked in the office together (he fell in love with her by proximity)
• Jesse & Becky Full House (they met through Danny because of work)
• Louis & Jessica Fresh off the boat (met in a bathroom)
• Mindy & Danny both gynecologists The Mindy Project (worked in the same clinic)
• Nick & Jess New Girl (Proximity, they lived in the same apartment)
• Jane & Michael Jane the Virgin (she was a writer and he was a cop, they met after he went to her house over a noise complaint on her birthday)
• Andy & April Parks & Rec (Proximity; met through Ann and Leslie and finding work at Parks & Rec)
• Brad & Jane Happy Endings (Brad works for a huge Chicago investment firm and was introduced to his wife, Jane, by his best bud Max on their season of Real World Sacramento. She works for The Car Czar as a car salesperson)

I also took time to ask real life couples who are either in my life or people I met via various groups. The answers of which partner did what and how they met were amazing to see.

Most of them met in school or online, in group settings, blind dates etc.

I think maybe one or two couples met at work, and one guy told me that he would never work with his wife because he felt it was important that the relationship at work should be separate from the household relationship.

I thought that was interesting because on the one hand it could be hard to balance all of the relationships you and your partner would have with one another but on the other hand, it's a unique bond when you and your partner can agree and disagree on the same work.

Although if either partner had completely different jobs then they'd have another dynamic of communication where they could take time to actually hear one another out and not be another added stress in comparison to working with one another.

You really have to find the right balance for yourself. And it may work and it may not. But one thing is for sure, TV is definitely NOT real.